INSTRUCTOR LOVE STORIES WITH CHRIS
In honor of Valentine's Day, instructors share intimate deets on finding (and staying in) love. Below, peep our feature with Chris, our hurricane instructor in NYC and his beau Eric.
Soooooo... how'd you and your boo meet?
Eric: We met virtually on Tinder. After chatting and texting for a couple months, we finally met in person at The Hudson for a lil romantic date by the fireplace.
Obvi you both swiped right! What were your first impressions of each other?
Chris: First impression: He seemed quirky, mysterious & odd. I remember walking to go meet him on the UWS, and he was walking behind me smirking. Slightly creepy. 😱
Eric: First, that he was just as handsome in person, as he was online. Which was incredibly relieving. And two, that he had A LOT of energy. It's very contagious and one of my favorite things about him, but I definitely thought he may have had too many coffees that day. ☕
Cute! How'd you two start dating?
Chris: It sort of just developed into what you would call "dating." We hung out plenty & took time to get to know each other over dinner, museums, drinks, movies. etc.
Eric: Dating just took place kind of organically. We frequently went on cute little dates over the course of a few months before making it "Facebook Official."
What are 3 things your LURVE about each other?
- He's extremely hardworking.
- His eyes.
- When he thinks something is really funny or has a genuinely happy moment, he cracks a smile that could make you melt.
- He is incredibly patient with me. I mean, he literally waited for almost 2 months before I agreed to a date. I've got a very high stress job and I know many times that gets carried home, but he's always very tolerant and understanding.
- His energy is so positive and as contagious as the flu.
- That face and bawwwwwdy.
Similarly, what are the quirks you notice about the other?
Chris: Even in the most serious of situations, he will always make a joke or sarcastic remark in an attempt to lighten up the mood.
Eric: He's obsessed with sparkling water and so the apt is always overflowing with empty cans. He seems to have some kind of allergy to pushing his chair in at the dining room table and he listens to Rihanna A LOT. #KissItBetter
Name three memorable experiences you’ve been through together as a couple.
- One of the first few times I hung out at his (now our) apartment, I asked him where the salt was while making us salads, and went to go
grab what I thought was salt, and he gasped and said, "That's my grandma's ashes!" Whoops...
- We spent the night in a haunted house that we rented through Airbnb. He gets easily creeped out and slept with a knife and made me sleep closest to the door.
- Spending Christmas in his hometown in Albuquerque, New Mexico was definitely one for the books.
- His first trip to New Mexico, my home state. Specifically, how excited he was to light luminarias, which are these little paper bags filled with some sand, and have a candle placed inside to illuminate the bag. At Christmas time, it's customary to line walkways, properties and driveways with them.
- When we slept in what I believed to be a haunted house together in Long Island. I slept with a knife next to the bed and made him sleep closer to the door.
- Watching him become close to my 12 year old dog. She hadn't lived with me for like 7 years. I went home to NM to most likely see her for the last time, but made a rash decision to drive her across the country back to Brooklyn. He wasn't too thrilled about it, but watching them develop a bond was really meaningful to me.
How would you describe your relationship?
Chris: We have a pretty good mix of passion, sarcasm & laughter in our relationship. I am a crazy Gemini with legit split personalities, and he is a the epitome of a Leo. While our personalities, especially in heated moments, could cause concern, they end up balancing each other out quite nicely and we've both learned to really hear each other out and make the adjustments we need for long-term viability.
Eric: Sometimes it's very push and pull. He acts with his heart and I tend to act with logic, which don't always match up. But, it forces both of us to view obstacles or adventures from new perspectives, which ultimately leads to growth and maturation. He's a Gemini and I'm a Leo... Fire needs air to ignite, right?
What's a piece of advice that you'd give to other couples?
Chris: Relationships are certainly not perfect. I've learned to listen, compromise & sacrifice being with Eric. It's not about falling asleep cuddling and happy every night. Or having a cute date night every night after work. It's about stealing covers, getting into heated arguments over a few harsh words & overly sensitive reactions, stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your heart heals and then...forgiveness. It's coming home to the same person, every day, that you know loves and cares about you in spite of (and because of) who you are. It's laughing about the times you accidentally did or said something stupid. It's about not picking up your end of the deal when it comes to keeping the apartment clean. It's about helping each other with the hard work of life. It's about loving someone even though, sometimes, they make you absolutely insane.
Eric: Give yourselves some objectivity. You need to be able to step back understand each other's ways of processing emotion, whether it be anger, joy, or sorrow. Everyone has their own ways of managing emotion and stress and just because it doesn't match up to your own methods, doesn't invalidate their methods. When you don't solely act on subjective thinking patterns, you allow yourself a selflessness and more compassion towards your partner.
Finally, if you two could be any pop song, what would it be?
Eric: If I were a pop song... it might be Damaged by Danity Kane. And if that were true, then Chris would be Cater 2 U by Destiny's Child. He treats me like a prince and I'm so grateful to have met such a handsome, patient and endearing soul.