Instructor Love Stories: Kelly
It doesn’t matter if you’re single and ready to mingle or all boo’d up, February 14 is a day to celebrate love in all forms.
In honor of VDay, we got some of our fave instructors to share intimate deets on finding (and staying in) love. Keep reading for more on Boston instructor Kelly, and her boo thang Kris.
First things first - how did you and your partner meet?
A mutual friend introduced us when we were both working at the same mall. We grew up one town away from each other, but our paths didn’t cross until they were finally supposed to. We started out as friends... until the first time we saw each other naked and from then there was no going back.
How long have you been together?
Been together 8 and married 2!
What are both of your zodiac signs?
I’m a Pisces and Kris is a Cancer. We are a match made in heaven. When we first started hooking up, I had an embarrassing amount of tabs open on my computer comparing my compatibility with exes... and with his. All of the ones about my compatibility with my exes was extremely flawed but ours said smooth sailing everywhere. THIS. IS. IMPORTANT.
What do you think is the most important thing to have in a relationship?
Every relationship is different; some people will say honesty or communication, but I think it all falls under the umbrella of mutual respect and unconditional love. We really don’t fight; we talk about issues that are uncomfortable, we express gratitude for the little things, and we aren’t afraid to be ourselves around one another.
Do you have any advice for singles looking to find a partner?
You do not have to compromise anything you need from a relationship and you don’t need to settle for “good enough.” There IS someone out there who will treat you the way you want to be treated, give you what you want in bed, and find the good in you when you can’t find the good in yourself. You will bring out the best in them, too. You are capable of loving someone else the way you want to love, too. Also, put your phone away, sit across the table from a person, and play some board or card games. I’ve found it’s a good way to bond.
Do you have any V-Day traditions? If none, what are you planning to do this year?
Am I the absolute WORST if I say we don’t need a holiday to remind each other how much we love each other? To be fair, we treat our anniversary like a holiday and are a little more romantic then.
What's your fave V-Day treat?
What's your favorite rom-com?
How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
So, you are expecting a child! Congrats! How has this motherhood journey taught you about love?
Thank you so much! My relationship with Kris has grown exponentially since finding out we were going to have a kid. He has been so supportive (even the first weekend when I was a hysterical mess because it was when Brett Kavanaugh was getting confirmed to the Supreme Court) and helpful and empathetic. Our love has always been strong, but this has solidified us as a family and I can’t WAIT to see him be a dad and hold that (hopefully no more than 10 lb) baby in his giant arms.
I’ve also learned that we do not give our moms enough credit. I have ALWAYS idolized my mother. But I don’t know how she did this three times. I wish I could give her the world.
Give us your best love advice:
You have to love yourself and be in tune with what you want emotionally, physically, sexually, before you can make demands of another person. And since the relationship with yourself is always growing, you need to find some who is willing to allow you to change and who you will allow to change as well. Kris and I are not the same people who we were 8 years ago, but that’s a GOOD thing. We’ve found out things about ourselves and celebrated each other’s discoveries along the way.
Also, embrace the hard stuff. Car rides in a snowstorms or up and down the Atlantic Coast, an international trip, a move away from home, any sort of difficulty with family... those aren’t things to “get through.” They’re challenges that on the other side of you can look at with the person who you love and say “yeah we did that, what’s next?” And if what’s next is sitting on the couch watching The Office, that’s cool too.